Familiarity breeds contempt.More often than not, this adage has stirred my mental juices!! So today am going to analyse this to death..well,not really 'to death', but till the end of my brief tête à tête right here:)
I dont know how you readers feel about it (please feel free to comment else i would not know what you think), but on a personal level the adage truly works for me. I pride myself for my short attention span. Therefore, I dont exactly need familiarity to make me feel contempt!!.
Now that we have that sorted (I can be self obsessed at times:)), what breeds contempt between people? Well, to put it this way familiarity may breed contempt, but all contempt does not necessarily stem from familiarity. Familiarity of environment, familiarity of situations,familiarity of things around you. It makes you want to break the whole circle called life. Why does life have to be one of those too-familiar circles?!
At times, when you have had too much of someone/something, i think, contempt automatically arises.Even if it is something/someone you love dearly, you do get that occasional bouts of wanting to steer away.That is why, you like to brood in isolation, even if you have 100 good friends (who are the 'familiar' ones in this discussion) in certain situations. Thats what makes you want to break the humdrum. Thats what makes you want 'change'. And it is this same 'familiarity' which makes you want to beat people up sometimes when they are around you when you dont want them to be or when familiar people keep doing their 'familiar' things in the name of being helpful which,in fact, you completely loathe!And because you dont want to reach that stage of 'contempt', you seek space and solitude. Its when you dont get required space and solitude that you start feeling contempt. Because when you want to gracefully bow out (without lashing at anyone) 'familiar' people, instead of taking the hint, swamp you so much that you feel overwhelmed by all the familiarity!The same quirks and helpfulness which you would tolerate on a good day puts you off big time at that god-forsaken moment.
Phew,it feels so good now that i have my so-called crap (which may also thoughts if you want to think of them as that!) off my system. I want to conclude by playing devil's advocate. I think familiarity is one of the ways of life. It is unavoidable,else how would relationships last??!!!Its just that familiarity from the wrong people and under wrong situations that puts one through a lot of discomfort. The right kind of familiarity and the right degree of familiarity, is surely acceptable:)
P.S. how many times did i use the word familiarity and its variations???!!
P.S.this blog goes out to the GALS; seema,bhagya and natasha..my song for the blog "I wanna break free-Queen"..it sure reflects our sentiments,eh??:)
Now that we have that sorted (I can be self obsessed at times:)), what breeds contempt between people? Well, to put it this way familiarity may breed contempt, but all contempt does not necessarily stem from familiarity. Familiarity of environment, familiarity of situations,familiarity of things around you. It makes you want to break the whole circle called life. Why does life have to be one of those too-familiar circles?!
At times, when you have had too much of someone/something, i think, contempt automatically arises.Even if it is something/someone you love dearly, you do get that occasional bouts of wanting to steer away.That is why, you like to brood in isolation, even if you have 100 good friends (who are the 'familiar' ones in this discussion) in certain situations. Thats what makes you want to break the humdrum. Thats what makes you want 'change'. And it is this same 'familiarity' which makes you want to beat people up sometimes when they are around you when you dont want them to be or when familiar people keep doing their 'familiar' things in the name of being helpful which,in fact, you completely loathe!And because you dont want to reach that stage of 'contempt', you seek space and solitude. Its when you dont get required space and solitude that you start feeling contempt. Because when you want to gracefully bow out (without lashing at anyone) 'familiar' people, instead of taking the hint, swamp you so much that you feel overwhelmed by all the familiarity!The same quirks and helpfulness which you would tolerate on a good day puts you off big time at that god-forsaken moment.
Phew,it feels so good now that i have my so-called crap (which may also thoughts if you want to think of them as that!) off my system. I want to conclude by playing devil's advocate. I think familiarity is one of the ways of life. It is unavoidable,else how would relationships last??!!!Its just that familiarity from the wrong people and under wrong situations that puts one through a lot of discomfort. The right kind of familiarity and the right degree of familiarity, is surely acceptable:)
P.S. how many times did i use the word familiarity and its variations???!!
P.S.this blog goes out to the GALS; seema,bhagya and natasha..my song for the blog "I wanna break free-Queen"..it sure reflects our sentiments,eh??:)
1 comment:
hey... nice to see that u started blogging again... and since we are of twin minds, so did i!
liked your post a lot! especially the devil's advocate... i think familiarity to something you arent exacctly fond of to begin with, extends to contempt..
on the other hand, i love the idea of familiar=comfort zone, safe concept (your people, who know how you work and do/say the right things)
happy new year babe, keep blogging!
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